Insecurities are like annoying little flies that follow you around. Actually, let me rephrase that- they’re like annoying little mean flies that follow you around. Whether you have them from childhood or they make an appearance later in life, everyone struggles with it and that’s okay.
The first step to overcoming these insecurities is pinpointing what they are. Take some time and analyze what it is you’re insecure about and why that might be.
Figuring out why you feel the way you do is a huge step in dealing with it. If you know that you’re in a situation where you feel insecure then take some steps to overcome it.
Even if what you’re insecure about isn’t something about the way you look, you can still use these tips to overcome it. Self-reassurance is a wonderful way to be nice to yourself.
Whenever a negative thought pops into your head, acknowledge it and then offer up something positive. For every negative thing you say about yourself, say at least one positive thing. Tell yourself something you like about yourself- anything at all. Example: you feel insecure about your legs and it’s too hot for jeans but maybe you like your hair a lot. Instead of beating yourself up about the few things you think are bad, try to exude confidence. Fake it until you make it. You might just change your mood around.
Try to be present in the moment. When you start over-analyzing things it’s easy to get stuck in your head. Try shaking yourself out of it and focus on what’s going on around you instead.
Staying present in the moment takes some practice but it can be achieved through mindfulness. Check out Breathe, an app on iOS that helps you with mindfulness meditations. finding a quiet, peaceful location is key. Something like this beautiful and peaceful courtyard found at Skyvue Student Apartments in East Lansing.
Surround yourself with positive people. Especially if you live off-campus and you have a little more freedom with who you surround yourself with- take advantage of that! I can’t hammer this point enough. School can be a toxic place if you’re constantly comparing yourself to your peers. The people you interact with on a daily basis will mould and shape you. If you’re hanging out with people who are never happy with themselves then you’re on your way down that same path. Even the strongest and most confident person is susceptible to self-criticism. Another tip for you: sometimes the person who is the loudest and most confident is also struggling with insecurities.
Go talk to your campus therapist as well! It only has power over you if you don’t say anything. Most therapists have support groups or other similar things to help you out. You are most definitely not alone in your feelings.